Getting a lover back is something all break up couples tried when they still have feelings and love for each other. Breaking up is one of the saddest times of a person’s life. There are frequently many reasons for couples to break up. These reasons vary and sometimes make no sense at all.
If you are involved in a relationship that has broken up and has caused you so much pains, hurt and frustrations, you may want to get back at your ex to get his or her share of the burden as well. However you need to be careful with your approach and not go too far if you are serious in getting the one you love back eventually.
The best way to get back at your ex and at the same time also repair the relationship is to show your ex how important you are and were to them. The following are some very useful tips to get back at your ex and also excellent methods to getting the one you love back as well.
1) Do not beg or plead
Getting a lover back by begging or pleading will produce adverse result. No one likes the needy or beggar. Obviously, I dun think you like it when people come up to you and ask you to make them feel better over and over again. You should let your ex get the impression that you have moved on and you still survive without them. When you have moved on, your ex will realize that they have not.
2) Stop communication temporary
Generally, closing the doors of communication may seem detrimental when your objective is to rekindle hope in getting a lover back. However, it is advisable to take a break and stop communication immediately after a break up. Let them wonder and puzzle a little while without any contact. This will allow your ex to clear his or her mind and realize how valuable your relationship was.
3) Be understanding and flexible
Do not be too firm and forceful with your ex, demanding that they move out since already broken up. Be accommodating and flexible, be a listener and a sympathizer. Your ex will be surprised and touched by your sensibility when they discover the other side of you. This would likely inspire them to keep the lines of communication which were lacking in the first place when the break up happened. This will create a higher chance of getting a lover back.
4) Avoid depression or torture yourself
Don’t be depressed or torture yourself by being alone. Contact your friends and go out with them. This does not necessarily mean you are dating or paying attention to the opposite sex. It is healthy to go on some dating though but dun overdo it. Not only will this be therapeutic for you, it will also enable your ex to understand they lost a gem.
5) Be yourself
Go back to being yourself again when you first met your ex. That was you that your ex was attracted to in the first place. When you regain confidence, other opposite sex will be attracted to you as well. Be a nice gentleman and your ex will soon discover and remind them of the happy memories they had with you.